What really frustrates employees about their manager

Published date: July 7, 2025

Poor leadership is rarely a matter of lacking expertise. What frustrates employees most are the daily behaviors and communication styles of their managers. According to Özlem Simsek, Managing Director at recruitment specialist Robert Walters, employees often disengage when leaders only communicate when they need something. “That kind of behavior undermines trust and creates distance.

A recent survey by Robert Walters reveals that 62% of employees lose trust when their manager communicates only out of self-interest. Even more striking: 71% say they can immediately spot forced enthusiasm, which they see as inauthentic leadership.

But what are the most common signs of poor leadership, according to employees? Six behaviors stand out:

1. Lack of transparency

A large majority (72%) are bothered by leaders who withhold information or fail to explain their decisions. Transparency proves to be crucial for trust and engagement. Özlem explains: “Imagine major changes are underway in an organisation, but employees are only informed at the last moment. That creates uncertainty and distance. Honest and timely communication - even about tough decisions -makes employees feel more involved and respected.”

2. Inconsistent behavior

Two out of three employees find inconsistency in behavior or decision-making particularly frustrating. Leaders who don’t stick to their own principles or promises lose credibility. Özlem: “If you promote collaboration, but then impose individual targets without consultation, you undermine team spirit. Consistency is a form of respect. Say what you do and do what you say.”

3. Not taking responsibility

44% are irritated by managers who won’t admit mistakes or who shift the blame. According to employees, these leaders create a culture of fear where no one feels safe to take risks. “Strong leaders show vulnerability."

By acknowledging mistakes and learning from them, you set a positive example and build trust within your team.

4. Lack of attention to wellbeing

For 30% of employees, a lack of attention to mental wellbeing is a clear reason to disengage. Leaders who focus solely on performance, without regard for the person behind the employee, create an unhealthy work culture. “Be alert to signs of stress or burnout. A flexible work environment and genuine interest in your team’s wellbeing make a big difference.”

5. Micromanagement

28% cite micromanagement as a major frustration. Excessive control not only limits employee autonomy but also stifles motivation and development. “Give people the trust to make decisions within clear frameworks. Leadership is about setting direction, not controlling every step.”

6. Favoritism

When managers clearly favor certain team members, it leads to demotivation and tension. 22% of respondents listed this as a source of frustration. “Equal opportunities, recognition, and fair treatment are the foundation of a healthy team environment. Favoritism - no matter how subtle - is quickly noticed and undermines team spirit.”

Inauthentic leadership gets exposed

Robert Walters' research also shows that leaders can’t just fake it. Employees easily detect forced enthusiasm and see it as insincere. According to Özlem, authenticity is key: “Authenticity isn’t just a buzzword. It’s exactly what people expect from their leader. Show who you are, really listen, and be honest – even when you don’t have all the answers.”